OK, there is a difference between being a support system for a friend in need and telling someone what to do. Sometimes the difference seems ever so slight, but I assure you that it is major. I think sometimes I fail to recognize the difference, and I can admit to that. I also realize how frustrating that can be to people, because I have been on the receiving end of that as well. I think that there is a certain line that’s crossed when someone asks for advice, and instead they get an outline by which they should live their lives. An opinion is one thing, but I think that a person should be in control of his or her own life.
Personally, I’m a very independent person. I guess it has something to do with the way that I was raised, because everyone in my family is that way. If someone tells me I can’t do something– I want to do it. If someone tells me I shouldn’t do something– I’m most likely going to. I don’t like being told what to do, and I don’t respond in a favorable fashion generally.
At the same time, I know people who can’t seem to make a decision for themselves. They are constantly asking “What should I do?”. Without an outside source of help, I am sure they would live their lives decision-less.
I guess that this blog seems a bit like a random ramble without the context, but if I were to divulge the inspiration for this blog I fear I might compromise a close friendship. I guess I am just pretentious enough to believe that I have the right to make my own decisions and to establish my own belief system. I generally don’t just accept what I’m told, I have always been that way. I like to learn it for myeslf. I like to experience things for myself, without the judgments of those around me. Advice is one thing. Telling me how to live my life is another.
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